Back again after a good, long run :(

I am at a crossroads and looking for advice. My husband and I have been married for 13 years. I have a 19 year old son from a previous marriage and he and I have 2 elementary age children together.

In 2016, I had a strange feeling because he was acting strange and I uncovered proof that he had been seeing high end escorts (he’d only admit to the 2 I discovered)- no clue really for how long but he supposedly also cheated on his ex wife and that’s why they divorced. Of course I was CRUSHED- my oldest finally had a stable home and dad figure and I had a toddler- so he did put in work and we went to counseling and worked through it. The trust has never been 100% there but he’s made decent effort to stay accountable to me.

The last year or so has just felt…off. Less prioritizing family time and being home and more time playing golf, poker, hanging with the fellas etc. My gut has been screaming but honestly, it was torture obsessing over his whereabouts after the cheating was discovered and I can hardly bear to do that again. But I deserve better and I know this.

The other day I was waiting for him in the cqr and his phone was plugged up and several Reddit notifications came through. I thought hmm and picked up his phone and looked in the recently visited topics or whatever and lo and behold….. definitely a major porn addiction with some hardcore genres but also a few super sketchy local hookup groups too. I took photos and have acted normal ever since. I’m crushed- and I love him! My life do too but fool me once… fool me twice. The trust will never ever come back and I’ve got 2 attorney consults lined up and an in discovery mode. He will deny and gaslight when confronted so I’d like to have some concrete proof and am trying to figure out how to best do that! I did search his phone the other night and found literally nothing- I suspect there is a burner phone or he’s very good at deleting/hiding and does a lot of his stuff on his computer- which I don’t have the password to.

Just looking for advice, stories of solidarity, ways to track his whereabouts etc - I’m planning to put a tracker on his car and would love to figure out a way to get his password or somehow hack into his computer. Help!

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6 comments posted: Tuesday, July 22nd, 2025

can someone please help me figure out a credit card charge??

It is listed as:

SQ *1-XTREME CLEANING SERV

$550

Around tampa florida.

Please help. My google skills are failing me :(

7 comments posted: Monday, November 23rd, 2015