Recent Coldplay concert clips 😢

Has anyone else been triggered by the recent video at the Coldplay concert.

I am 5 years out and felt things were going ok. But boy did this really open old wounds
It doesn’t help that the man in question bears a canny resemblance to my husband.

I feel very vulnerable and stupid for staying.
It’s hard to even look at him right now.

I have found the public comments so difficult to read. I really feel like I have completely lost my self respect by staying. I am feeling like I may have made a massive mistake. Just seeing these two cheaters - and the public reaction. It just takes me back to the first few weeks after d-day.

How can people be so cruel? Honestly the brazenness of these two. My husband and his AP worked together. They went to the theatre and on holiday together. I am pretty sure their work colleagues knew. I think watching this has been like a bucket of water in my face.

Anyone else feeling this - after seeing the clips on social media?

Feeling so sick to my stomach- it’s really got to me. Thanks for reading, just not sure what this means. Feeling so off balance 😢

17 comments posted: Saturday, July 19th, 2025

Feeling the “ick”

Hello everyone- It’s been a while since I posted. I am almost 4 years past d-day. Trying to R. I am really struggling with intimacy and just the thought of my FWH touching me is making me feeling really icky. I have never felt like this before, even after D-Day. I have always been a very been very tactile person and it’s important to me to be touched and cuddled.

We did a lot of hysterical bonding at first- then things settled down but were still a lot more frequent than before the affair. For the last 6 months or so I have started to think about the sex he had with AP again, some mind movies are back and I feel really disgusted by him. I am actually quite shocked that I didn’t react like this at the start. Just confused as to why, only now, am I so repulsed by it all?

I can’t even bring myself to think about the crazy sex we had at first. It feels like it wasn’t me, I am feeling embarrassed about how I behaved and how easy I made it for him. I have blocked out a lot of what happened in those early weeks, because they were so awful.

I don’t know if this means I am done with R. I have been struggling to think about the future, to plan things and can’t imagine us growing old together. The thought of Christmas is overwhelming me too. FWH is getting excited and wanting to book things. I feel like I have gone backwards 3 years and don’t know what to do.

My biggest fear is I have just wasted 4 years trying to R, on top of 26 years being married to the wrong guy. I try to think about how far we have come but it’s like my body has just taken over and is saying - no way - yuk.

Lots of people told me early on, when I was confused, that you’ll just know when you’re done. I think maybe as I have healed, I am beginning to realise I am not attracted to him anymore.

Anyone else go through this so long after d- day? If you felt icky about physical intimacy, did that ever come back? Thanks 🙏

10 comments posted: Friday, November 10th, 2023