So Hard Buying a Card…

Hello, fellow SI club members. I have been hanging around here for a couple of years finding a lot of help from other’s stories, but I haven’t yet gotten up the nerve to post my story due to privacy concerns. Lord willing, some of that is resolved in the near future and I can share my full experience…

I was in the greeting card aisle this afternoon trying to find an appropriate card for my ww’s birthday this weekend. Almost all of them talk about how "proud I am to be your husband", "you make my life wonderful", "your faithfulness to me", etc… As I was reading through them I got triggered once again with intense sadness. After 32 years of feeling all those wonderful things (I used to struggle picking out cards because I felt all of them were true), now I struggle to find cards that reflect my true feelings of love without all the expressions that no longer apply because they were destroyed by my ww’s infidelity. I still love her with all my heart and the thoughts of those losses cut me so deeply that I had to fight the urge to collapse on the floor and weep. I managed to stumble to the next unoccupied aisle and tried to compose myself. It’s been 2.5 years since Dday, and for the first year most of my life was blurry from looking through the constant lens of tears. I am considered by most to be a manly man, but I usually don’t mind crying to relieve emotional pressure. The past year or so I have coped so much better, so it was rather overwhelming to have that grief strike again so suddenly in a public place…

With infidelity being so rampant, you would think someone would start designing greeting cards for betrayed spouses!

Thank you for letting me vent… Praying for you all!

18 comments posted: Thursday, July 24th, 2025