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I've been here since 2016.

There are people here who believe that male and female BS'S are treated differently from society at large.

They believe that female BS'S are viewed with sympathy and male BS'S are insulted and emasculated.

Now, we have a this kiss cam situation where there is a male and female BS.

As far as I can see, both the male and female BS are receiving the same amount of sympathy

I don't see the male BS getting insulted and the female BS getting sympathy

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 5:26 PM, Tuesday, July 22nd]

I see people acting like the male BS doesn’t even exist.

I can’t figure out if that is just women doing most of the posting and focus on the same gender BS or what.

I would like to know what male BSes take on it is because it is a very odd phenomenon to watch.

Boy I hate to generalize, but....

Men generally have their problems ignored by society and are expected to figure it out themselves. This is merely a microcosm of that societal attitude in my opinion. Basically any issue a man is confronted with, the advice is basically, "Improve yourself and do better next time, you are the only obstacle in your way." Pain is temporary, the glory of the Roman Empire is forever.

It took a couple of days to even verify that the WW had a BS and many outlets still haven’t reported it. About 80% of the coverage I have seen focuses on the cheating man (his spouse, his job, his kids, will he lose his job, how much money he has, etc.).

The info I have seen about the WW spouse seems more neutral and focused on his job and that her "type" appears to be CEOs. Can’t say I’ve seen much "sympathy" for him at all.

I would love to see a study on this subject where researchers read all the comments globally on kiss cam responses and do analysis on how commenters with different genders,economic backgrounds and cultural biases view the male and female BS'S in this situation

I often use AI tools for similar purposes.

For example, Reddit is often characterized as being radically against cheaters. You'll frequently see comments like, "Reddit basement dwellers treat cheaters worse than murderers or rapists." I genuinely don't believe this to be the case.

I recall a Reddit post that went viral, discussing an affair from years ago and whether the person should disclose it or if it would only cause pain. After reading many comments bemoaning Reddit's "harsh" stance on cheaters (what that even means, I'm not sure—should we praise them instead?), I copied and pasted all the comments into an AI tool for analysis.

The findings were insightful: roughly 20 percent of the comments were abusively negative. Forty-nine percent were negative but reasonable. Interestingly, 20 percent were somewhat supportive, and 20 percent were highly sympathetic. To me, these findings don't suggest an overwhelmingly harsh viewpoint from users. In fact, I believe this likely aligns with the default views of people polled at random in the real world.

All of this is to say, you could do likewise. Find an article with a robust comment section on the kiss cam topic, paste the comments into an AI tool of your choice, and request specific analytical information.

I agree that the male BS has been largely ignored. I actually had to Google her marital status,which in itself is telling.